Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The Little Things That I Didn't Know

Mr. Magic and I live together, and have lived together for um, like, almost six years now. This living together for such a long time before being engaged has, as you can imagine, caused my parents to say a wide variety of statements - some cliched, some just totally obscure.

My mom, for instance, did the whole bovine analogy. Yes, you know the one.... I'm not even going to write it here because it is so freaking trite. I don't like being referred to as a large farm animal, or being "for sale." I am a feminist, and a magician too, after all.

My dad said (and I swear I will never, ever forget these words of wisdom) "You don't know what you don't know, you know?"

Um, yes. I mean, no. I mean, yes, I know that there are things I don't know about Mr. Magic, and vice versa, but I know I know enough to know that what I don't know will be ok. You know?

Anyway, from living together, I have learned a lot of little things about Mr. Magic (yes, Dad, things I did not know before!), and he has learned a lot of little things about me. Sometimes these little things are endearing, and sometimes they are annoying, but always these little things are what make our lives so ours.

For instance, I have learned that Mr. M likes to drink some water before he leaves the house. Every time. He used to leave the cabinet doors open all the time, but now he does not. He insists on the lint dryer being clean. He talks to the cats constantly in his "cat voice" (ok, you probably know that too if you have ever been in our home). He has a stack of, like, twenty books next to his bed at all times (and refuses to put them on the bookcase shelf). He takes really long showers. He doesn't eat leftovers. He's good at doing the dishes and taking out the trash, but he throws my mail away.

I don't know for sure what all he would include in the list about what he has learned from living with me, but I do know a couple of things. What's interesting is that some of these things I never consciously thought of about myself until he noticed them and pointed them out. Like, I always make a noise when I am sick - he calls it my "sick noise." If I make this noise, he will ask "Are you sick? You made your sick noise." and then I realize, "Hmm, I think I am getting a cold." I never even noticed that I made this sound until he pointed it out!

He has also noticed that I barely drink anything. If he pours me a glass of coke or juice, I drink less than half. So now he only pours me three ounces at a time. He knows I take nightly baths, and he hates it when I read in the tub because I get the pages of the book wet.

Weird little things. I love them.

Do you have little things you have noticed about your significant other? Has your partner noticed any little things about you?


  1. Mr. B knows that I like 3 ice cubes in my water, no more no less. Mr. B doesn't eat leftovers either. He likes to turn the ceiling fan on before he gets into the shower so there is a cool breeze in the bedroom while he is getting dressed. He knows I like to turn the volume down on the car stereo when we are on "the street before our street". He knows I like to come home to a quiet house, TV off. I could write these out for hours! Great post.

  2. Those are really cute! I love the "street before our street" one.

  3. I am definitely an advocate of living together before marriage just so people can get used to these little quirks. Dave likes to drink tap water before bed :D

  4. I love this. FI has to do his routine or he gets cranky. If he has something in mind to do, he has to do it - you can't change plans. He never says "no" - he will say "maybe" but it really means "no." He will say lets go but really that means that he has ten more minutes of things to do before he can leave. . . I could go on and on also. I love this post a lot! Thanks!

  5. My husband won't eat leftovers, has a stack of books next to his side of the bed, and drinks water every time he leaves also! I think they might be related.

  6. Dude, what is the deal with boys not eating leftovers?!? I love leftovers! It means immediate yummy food, no fuss, no muss!

  7. Ha. Way to go, Dad for explaining things succinctly!